Tuesday, 26 May 2020

Reincarnation and time travelling

Hello and welcome to another newsletter post. 

It has been heck of week. I never thought I would ever believe in time travelling or reincarnation, but this week with certain things that have happened I do.

Who knows what I would be in my next life, but this week has taught me not take things for granted and be happy with the here and now.

I love my blogging and helps keep my mind at piece, and to communicate to others to help them through this tough time ahead.

Soon everything it looks like will be re-open and we can return to normal.
This lockdown has taken its tole and glad when it is all over.

I have managed to do lots of things like blog everyday, write a few more books and tell my story.

I want my blogs to be honest as possible and true. A blog doesn't have to be an essay but link with people who may be experiencing or going through the same as you.

So keep safe and be true.

Many thanks for reading,


Carrie X



Friday, 15 May 2020

Living for each day

Bored Female Girl - Free photo on Pixabay

At the moment I have to say I am a little confused. Boris Johnson has made no sense about the lockdown what so ever.

We can only see one parent at a time. Sorry but what a load of codswallop.

You can go to work but you can't use public transport.

Is it me or is that completely contradictory?

At the moment I am living for each day and am planning a few things hoping like many of us that the, Lockdown will be reduced and soon be able to return to normal.

I am not going to hold my breath but praying.

Hats off to those working for the NHS, food delivery services and TV and radio broadcasters, because they are the ones that are keeping us going, and trying to do that best to keep us still all entertained.

However I still baffled by the Lockdown because I have seen helicopters and they can't do social distancing. They can still pass their germs to one another.

I got to say if it wasn't for my blogs that I am writing everyday, (see my list of sites below) I would be going insane by now.

Please check this lovely video of Micheal Ball singing with Captain Tom Moore and NHS voices of care choir, which did bring a teat to my eye.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LcouA_oWsnU

Many thanks for reading,


Carrie X



 

Friday, 8 May 2020

Surviving the Lockdown

Boy oh boy has this week gone fast and we are heading for another weekend.

Everybody that I have seen on social media has been doing their own bit to comfort and support people through the lockdown.

Check out this collaboration with lead singer from Coldplay and Gary Barlow:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JNctQpSiakc

Who knows when it will end.

The one thing it has made me do is do as much that I possibly can, that I would otherwise would have put aside.

Example: My blog writing, and have written a blog everyday this week.

I am in the process of writing another book and creating my first online course.

I think it is important to do extra bits and support each other through this lockdown.

Lets raise our glasses and remember to clap each Thursday at 8pm to applaud the NHS staff who have been saving people's lives through this Pandemic.

What have you done during this Pandemic to keep yourself busy I would love to hear from you.

Many thanks for reading,


Carrie X


Friday, 1 May 2020

10 Tips on Dealing with betrayal


My thoughts and advice this week is on a very personal topic, dealing with betrayal.
                               


                                


I have been betrayed a lot and it is heart breaking, but seeing the signs and knowing this has happened has made me stronger than ever before.

It is deception and all I can say to those people is,

"Thank you for the time we have had, but it is my turn and is time for me to let go and say goodbye". 

Finding out has been tricky but now I am some what relieved as I realised that I had been living a complete lie and that I now can put it behind me and think of two words,

"F**K 'EM"

There is a song by Kelly Clarkson which plays in my head, which is called "What doesn't kill you".

The betrayal won't kill me because I am not going to let it and neither should it effect you, however it has made me see that people may appear to be nice but they are not, and it takes sometime to see it.

BE THE BETTER PERSON!

The people who betray are usually like I wrote in my blogpost on Everyone Can Build A Castle called Home Truths, is that it is their way of crying out for attention and needing help themselves but they don't know how to say it so they hit out, and have a cheap shot at you, normally for nothing.

Even when you tell these people to stop, like bullies, as I do see it as a type of bullying is that they have no remorse and will do anything to hurt you.

So I would,

1. Journal the events down, as when I first thought of this betrayal that was happening I was writing it down everyday and it is a great way to pour your heart out.

2. Stay away from these people if you can, don't get confrontational however tempting it is, as like with bullies they can be manipulative and turn it so  you get into trouble not them. Also they often do it to get a reaction from you.

3. Report it, if it is a work colleague for example, go to the right channels and always check your work contract to see if it mentions about Code Of Conduct or if they have a anti-bullying policy

4. Follow through. So you can still say to them "Look if I have upset you then tell me because the way you are speaking to me is bothering me and if it does continue I will report it". Then if you have pre-warned them but they have carried it on, then report it as said and keep reminding the managers etc so they can nip the betrayal in the bud.

5. Don't stay silent as if they do this to you and they are bound to do it to someone else

6. Seek counselling. I have a doctor and keyworker support me due to my mental health and doing a few psychological sessions really did teach me on how to cope when you feel that everyone is against you. That is how I felt the last few days and it is horrible feeling 

7. If you have witnessed someone being a betrayed then be their confident and let them know if they wish to talk to someone, you will be all ears and shoulder to cry on

8. If there are children involved then don't use the children as weapons. Still try and be on the same page on this, as you can affect their mental health too

9. Be on guard because if it is physical abuse report it immediately and even go to the police for help

10. Seek refuge. If is a spouse or another person in the family or a so-called friend who has turned, then block them and go to a refuge centre.

So do not be feared you aren't alone if you are being betrayed as there are good people out there who can help. 

If you have any thoughts and advice on betrayal and how you dealt with it please feel free to share it with me, by leaving a comment below.

Many thanks for reading,


Carrie x





















Sunday, 26 April 2020

The Do's and Don't when building a blog



This weeks thoughts and advice post is going to be about starting a blogpost. I have written a similar blogpost on Bloglovin called Creating a blog but in this blog I am writing is about the do's and don'ts.

1. Don't pay for any domain or to post a blog until you start to built up some traffic and also you may want to change the name of your blog. Once you have built up an audience then pay for a domain and upgrade your site if you wish to

2. Write about what you do know rather what you don't know, as then you have less chance of getting writers block, where you can lose sight of who you are writing to.

3. Keep a list of blogposts you want to write about, I do this using my Notepad on my phone and I write them down in my planner

4. Use sites like Pinterest, Bloglovin, Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin and Instagram to promote your blogposts

5. Have confidence in your writing, because if you don't believe in it, how do you expect someone else to believe in your writing

6. Print off your own business cards and labels, if you are going to be selling items from your blogs, and go to seminars, workshops so you can build a social network by word of mouth

7. If you want to write a book to go with your blog then, learning from what I know now is create an EBook, which you can self publish at no cost through Amazon. Then later create a full book of the subjects you write about.

8. Build up your income for your blogs and keep notes of what you are spending on to help with your blogposts if you are doing hauls, shopping ideas etc

9. Create printables where your audience can download a worksheet, an EBook or even a cheat sheet on various subjects
Check out my these cheat sheets within these two posts below:


10. Create a diary and schedule of when you can post blogs to keep the posting of them consistent, and let your audience know so they are kept in formed and know to look out for it.

 
Many thanks for reading,


Carrie X

Sunday, 19 April 2020

Talking about depression



It is another end of another week and I don't know about you but having no school run to do in the mornings as made me lose track of the days.

My thoughts and advice for this week is not to allow things to get to you. It is a working progress. I have been through a bit of a drama and I mentioned in my blogpost Self Confidence- Feel like the ugly duckling, about being back on medication and I am now on anti-depressants.

If you do go down the route of taking medication for depression always ask what the side effects are as there are many. With the one I am on your mouth can get very dry so it is important you drink plenty of water.

It is Quetrapin and I had to take one and then increase to 2 tablets at night before I go to bed.

If you are like me have spouts of depression then you do need to seek support and create which I wrote about in a previous blog a good foundation for yourself, so you can speak to them whenever you feel low.

https://everyonecanbuildacastle.com/2017/01/03/creating-a-foundation-and-following-the-unplanned/

Try not to isolate yourself because this can lead to further depression, causing self sabotage, develop bad habits to avoid the feelings of depression and before you know it, you are back contemplating whether to take that overdose or not.

Please do not go down the spiral and call for help. I have written two other blogs relating feeling suicidal:

https://buildingselfconfidencetud.blogspot.com/2020/04/i-am-now-on-antidepressant-because-my.html

https://buildingselfconfidencetud.blogspot.com/2020/03/feeling-suicidal.html

I am going through a marriage break up and it is tough, as so much as drastically changed now and it can be niggling parasite, but yet at the same time I am kind of relieved as it hadn't been working for a while, so I am ready to make that change in my life, and I have met someone new and so I feel it is time to move on.

Many thanks for reading,


Carrie X











Saturday, 11 April 2020

Happy Easter

Easter Egg Hunt Clipart


First of all HAPPY EASTER TO EVERYONE!

It is time for us to have plenty of chocolate and look forward to an Easter Egg, but do we all know what Easter is really about?

Let me tell you, it is about how Jesus was Crucified on a cross because people betrayed him and didn't believe in him, and I think a lot of us can identify with this.

That's why I tell stories in books to get to people to understand that you can use life experiences as an advantage. The birth and the death of Jesus Christ is one of the most famous stories in the world and ones that should be remembered.

There are so many people at the moment who work for the NHS who are doing wonders to save people from the Coronovirus at the moment that it is a strange kind of Easter but doesn't mean we can't still watch the story on TV and spend time having some family time. You can still do an Easter Egg hunt around the home and have a meal together, plus along as not too many of you, go for a long walk.

Why not have a picnic in the garden with some friends and have a champagne lunch or dinner.

So still enjoy Easter the best you can have fabulous weekend!